Because I post often enough about what a challenge it can be (I just don't understand how we are all raised, especially girls, to think that is what we should grow up and DO. And the divorce rate! And and and!), I should write what I positively LOVE about it, since today is such a special day.
There is something sublimely delicious in knowing exactly what Cullen likes, and him knowing what I like, without asking.
Our bodies fit perfectly together, like they were made of the same mold, through all the changes both of our bodies have gone through.
He already knows me inside out, and I him, so we can talk about "real" stuff and skip all the "figuring you out" crap. :) Stepping stones.
When I have bad dreams I can curl up and be "saved" by the warm, loving body next to me.
He loves my feet. I don't have to worry about introducing someone else to my special feet. ha!
Team Hayes wouldn't be what it is without him, and our partnership and dedication to The Cause.
He's so awesome that he makes being at home better than being out. I don't understand "girls weekends", and no one can get him to go away for a drunk fest either. I did it one time, to my aunts house, a year ago or so. That was my first time. It was super fun. Haven't done it since. Have no urge to.
We have grown so much together that we share very similar views on many things, things that we came to from different directions.
Honestly, there is no replacement for time put in- we flow like an ocean, ebb and flow, the tide is high, the tide is low, to be high again.
Learning to love another human being unconditionally- other than your children- is hard. We have an opportunity to do so here, to remove our expectations and celebrate them for who they are, the way we do for others. We have a HUGE opportunity, and we should all keep dancing the dance.
He didn't think he'd ever have anything---he thought his learning disability would rule his life forever. That makes me happy for HIM, that he proved himself SO WRONG. A wife of 14 years and 4 adorable, well behaved children? Full time job that he's loved at? He's loved at every job he works. He's just so GOOD. In fact, when Jane said to me last night "did you keep my husband from getting too close to the cliffs?" I didn't correct her. Even his mom wants him to be her husband. ;) He is what every woman deserves. He says he's sorry, he listens, he's stubborn (needed sometimes), he is forgiving, he is funny, he loves to make people happy....
If you (we) can make it through marriage.....it's worth more than there are words for, or numbers for. It's unquantifyable. It IS that big of a deal when people hit 40 years (my parents, this year!) 50 years, 25 years even. BIG DEAL.
Keep on keepin on.
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