Monday, January 3, 2011

New Idea!

I have a new idea.

Maybe people who are bi-sexual are more highly evolved spiritually than the rest of us? Do you think?
Here's my theory----there's not that many people who are bisexual.
Of course, there's more to it than that!
In my whole entire life, I have never once been the slightest bit attracted to a woman. Never. Not even my closest friends. Not even the ones I kiss goodbye or hello. Not ever. Not in highschool. Not after highschool. Not in comestology school. It has NEVER EVER happened to me. In fact, I'd rather make out with the nastiest male alive than kiss a girl. That's how it is for me. I have known many, many fabulous women in my life and I have never felt THAT way about them. I am what you call a complete hetrosexual.
Then we have our GAY friends. All the way gay. The women who would rather kiss the ugliest woman alive than kiss a man, any man. Women who have never found men attractive. Not when they were young, not when they were "experimenting" in college. Never. And the same goes for men, of course. Having been in the hair industry, I have been a fag hag (their name for me, not mine!) to many a delightful boy. And I double dared Phillip when we were out to smooch a nice hetro we were hanging out with (girl) which led to a lengthy chewing out about how nothing was worth THAT and what did I think he was anyway...anyways...

so then we come to our bisexual friends. There's a show on about realtors for the rich and famous and there's a very beautiful man on there who is bisexual. He was dating a girl for awhile, then they moved on and now he's with a man. He said he goes back and forth and could never settle on just one sex for the rest of his life, because he is attracted to both.

Isn't that brilliant? I think I would sign up for that, if I could. Love is liquid, and the people who can feel sexual about both sexes have it MADE! A wise friend of mine likes to say "It's not about the sex, it's about the person." but when it comes to sexual attraction, I'm not sure. I THINK that it would have happened to me by now, with all the people I've known and worked with over the years, if it was going to. Yes, I think that people who feel sexual about both sexes are more highly evolved than the rest of us. They can truly say that they are open to loving many, and can see the fullest potential in everyone.
I don't know. There's only a handful of you that read this. Have you been attracted to someone of the same sex? What if *I* am the freak, because I can't stand the thought of it? We can just put it on my list of things that make me a freak.

Raspberry cowtracks icecream is so good that I might have to have some of that. Right this second! I'm trying to pack and the babies are tag teaming me and it's hard to do anything. SIGH. Another one calls. Time to warm up a bottle!
Oh, look at the snow. I will not miss it when we're gone. I don't think I can keep living here!

8 comments:

  1. I'm a girl and I'd say that I am about 90% attracted to men. I have no problem with finding women to be sexy and attractive but I find that rather than wanting to be WITH that attractive woman... I want to look LIKE that attractive woman. I see her body and think, wow, I wish my ass looked like that in jeans.

    I've kissed a couple of women (two, I think) on drunken dares or lost bets and they really didn't do anything for me. But the thought doesn't repulse me or anything. I just prefer men.

    That being said, there was this one girl... Claire. She was special. She was actually a client/ co-volunteer (she was also a massage therapist and we were both in massage school) when I volunteered doing cancer massage at the place that I work now. I can't explain what it was about her but she was the only girl that I have ever wanted to kiss.

    I never did. A) it would have been inappropriate since she was my client and B) I had a boyfriend at the time. But I wanted to. And I have never felt that way about a girl before or since.

    However, I don't know if being bi-sexual makes people more highly evolved spiritually.

    You are not attracted to all men, right? There are some that you find attractive and some that repulse you. So would you say that being attracted to ALL men makes you more spiritually evolved than just being attracted to some?

    I think it is your ability to LOVE people, not your desire to have SEX with them, that makes you more spiritually evolved.

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  2. Hm. Interesting. It's good food for thought. Cullen about laughed me out of the van when I ran my "theory" on him. I just want to know what drives sexual attraction, I guess it boils down to. To me, USUALLY it's a natural evolution of when you are attracted to someone's mind...sometimes someone who is not the most attractive becomes more so the more you know their mind and your throughts co mingle. Then there are the people who you are attracted to on sight. Why HAVEN'T i ever been attracted to a woman? And, for me, it does gross me out to consider being with a woman. I don't care how anyone else feels but I don't see it happening here. I can't take it off the board since no one should really be able to take anything off the board (???) but ...you know? Whereas you've at least had it happen to you....what drives it?????!!! I have women I consider soul mates and still au....uh oh..babies! must run! Thanks for indulging me trying to see what drives attraction!

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  3. nicki you crack me up. i find this fascinating that you are grossed out. but it's honest and i respect that.

    nikki – nice honest answer. i myself have been attracted to a woman, but not necessarily in some overtly sexual way. i kind of agree with nikki on being attracted to a woman's essence/spirit - it really wasn't sexual for me. who knows, maybe it was more admiration of character?

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  4. I hope it didn't offend you! I just have never experienced feeling THAT WAY about a woman. If it's true that there's a line and everyone falls somewhere on the line, I'm at the way beginning of it. See how nice it sounds..." attracted to a woman's essence/spirit"---that's the part that made me wonder if there's something spiritually advanced when people can reach THAT level.
    I feel like I love COMPLETELY. But it can't be COMPLETE if that attraction isn't there, can it? Like my Jen La---I consider her (you) one of my closest friends always and ever even though I see you rarely and we never get to talk enough. I know you understand my insides completely. But I don't feel the same way that I do about you as I did when I knew that..say Cullen (or any other boy that I ever wanted to snooch) was going to be somewhere that I was going to be...you know...that tickley feeling in the bottom of your tummy, nervous anticipation or whatever. And like Nikki said, I can admire a female body, the same way I can admire a male body but it's in a way that I think "If I had that waist I'd fit into my skinny jeans again" or "she either has fake tits or she didn't nurse 4 children." or "how refreshing to see real teeth instead of blazing whites!" OH! There was a girl on The Locator that I thought was cute last night.....nope. Still would rather lick dirt than kiss her. I'll keep trying.

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  5. hahah no need to keep trying. i never tried a girl out. none of them obviously has made such an impression that i've taken it to a physical level. so i think what we can conclude from this is that attraction is different for everyone and at different levels of comfort and interaction. but i *think* we already knew that???

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  6. HAHAHAHAHAH!!!! Yes, of course we knew that. Hey, I can either dive into this and try to figure out what causes some people to be attracted to both sexes vs only one sex, or I can be on Edina Realty finding my next house, and try to fight the I Want To Move Badly beast that rises us every year or so. Right now I'm doing a little of both....I'm looking in Tampa since there's no way in hell I can really go there with everyone I love being HERE. :D

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  7. I know. I'm the first to admit it. I love moving. I LOVE packing and unpacking and the newness. I think that's my addiction. I get sick and tired of the same ole place. I can make anywhere feel like home. *SIGH*.
    Love, Crazy Bitch. :D

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  8. feel free to bring that *crazy* ass over here and help me unpack to get it out of your system.

    have fun in florida lady! collect some seashells and sand for a nice reminder once you're back home.

    smooch. (in a non-weird totally platonic way – don't want to gross ya out)

    xoxoxoxoxo

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