Okay, I have a big problem with the word platonic. Gotta puke it out, sorry!
First of all- have you read the definition of it? At first I was like AWWWW, but then I was like WTF!
Platonic:
1. Of, relating to, or characteristic of Plato or his philosophy: Platonic dialogues; Platonic ontology.
2. often platonic Transcending physical desire and tending toward the purely spiritual or ideal: platonic love.
3. often platonic Speculative or theoretical.
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Now, this irritates me. First of all, we, as a species, rarely use it in the proper sense, I think. I'm irritated because I feel connected to the people I love deeply, and it DOES go further than physical desire--- hello, I have girlfriends! But I feel affectionate towards them...I feel like platonic is meaning that we are not to feel affection at all. I DO feel affections towards my male friends too. Sometimes I sit in meetings and look at D and send him love, I think to myself "Please be happy, please have a really good life going on away from here" and I'd totally hug him if it were the littlest bit appropriate. B, too. I LOVE my VP, and not just because he's a brilliant VP. I love who he is as a person. If you believe some religions, physical desire IS a lower desire, dirty, bad, and only special people like priests and monks can transcend and be holy. BULLSHIT. I call bullshit all over that- first of all....anyone who has to spend that much time trying to not feel physcial desire..well their life sucks. It's one of the funnest things in the whole wide world, and we are stupid people to try to downplay or squash that instead of enjoying it. Secondly, we're stupid people - kind of- to expect eachother to never feel affectionate toward anyone else. We get threatened so easily. Why is that? We're missing something, something big. Back to marriage, I guess- and how 50% end up divorced, and that number doesn't include the people staying for the kids....that doesn't include the people who are married having affairs...what are we missing?
It is possible to have affection without accidentally having sex, isn't it? I mean...we have the ability, if we so choose, to look at a feeling and acknowledge it, and not have to ACT on it, right? And if we do that very thing, if we see someone and think "wow, if I weren't married..." and we don't act on that, but can carry on a friendship with that person...well, isn't that beng PLATONIC (transcending physcial desire)? Isn't that a GOOD thing? How are we suposed to define LOVE? Isn't love all encompassing? If we love to spend time with someone, if we love someone as a person, isn't that all encompassing? Isn't affection part of that? We feel affection towards kids, other adults, our same sex friends (okay, guys might not feel that affectionate toward other guy friends)...loyalty is a show of affections, isn't it? To stick up for a friend when they aren't around, that's affection..
If we are hetrosexual, we are biologically made up to find the opposite sex attractive. Same as homosexual, of course, but for same sex. Not everyone will appeal to us, and personality plays into it, beliefs, etc, but what the hell is the deal with that being "bad"? We are suposed to NOT feel any of that EVER again when we say our vows? We get threatened so easily when we are afraid that someone we care about might feel attracted to/affection toward someone else also, and when I say that, I get why. I mean, people cheat. People do stupid, mean, things. I get that...but at the same time, we're digging our own hole, really. I think we'd be smarter to acknowledge that part of our humanness, and get the hell over it. If there is a friendship worth having, we can "transcend physical desire", right? And with that being said, I think people who reach "platonic" friendship/love/whatever are showing a beautiful strength, righteous character, and that their hearts are in the right place. Rant off.
GUESS WHO'S MOVING HOME?!?!?!?! ROSE, BOB AND THE KIDS!!! Marshall, MN...it's a few hours away but THEY'LL BE IN MN!!!!!!!! I couldn't be happier. It gave me happy tears when she told me. MN!!!!! I'm going to miss Arkansas, and I'm sure the move will be very emotional for them and the girls....but MINNESOTA!!!!!!!!! YAYAYYAYAYAY!! Bob will be here first, and the rest of the family after school's out.
Know what this means?
I'm not ever leaving MN.
GRRRR.
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I can't WAIT to have my family here!!!!
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