It's the same everywhere. After intensive research done by yours truly, it has been decided that It Is The Same Everywhere.
I have yet to meet a married couple who doesn't have the EXACT same struggles. I should find that comforting, but it pisses me off, mostly. There are fights about money, and struggles over alcohol, and control, and inconsideration. Those married folks with children also know about the issues with discipline, or how to deal with a baby who won't sleep or eat for shit. No that everyone is miserable all the time, because most of us aren't (even though I sound like it. Gimme a break. I hate winter and I see Cullen very rarely). But we have the same complaints. Of course that's "normal" when you throw two people together, make them say that they will feel the same way they do on that day no matter what kind of crap they have to deal with.
I can't recall the last time I was in a fight with a girlfriend.
I'm sure the other part of it is that I don't live with my girlfriends and don't have to figure out how to work at home, work around their schedules, get everything done and keep everyone happy, too. The little nuances such as the one we wrestle with- he works 2 jobs with some seriously jacked up hours...Sunday being the ONLY day he doesn't work at either job. Mondays he doesn't work til 2pm. Saturday he works at Fed Ex at 4am, home by 8am or so. So my weekends look like this- just like every other day of the week. I'm up, feeding kids, cleaning house, carrying on. When he comes home from Fed Ex on Sat, he's wiped, so needs to sleep til noon or so. Sundays are his first day to sleep in (have you heard this before? Surely you have...). Monday's are Monday's, I need to be up so I can punch in for work and get my stuff done. Surgery? Doesn't matter.
Last night we discussed it again. He says he's going get up on Sunday's so I can sleep in and have one break a week. We'll see. I'm not waking him up. I'm just feel too bad taking his "one day" that he doesn't work and doing that to him. Today he got up with me and we did breakfast for the kids together, laundry, all sorts of stuff. He tells me maybe in another year or two he'll have normal hours. Think I'll make it? Hopefully he and my new wife will get along nicely.
Anyways....it's all the same, most anywhere. I've noticed it's exasperated in couples who have lots of kids, and have weird hours where there is no real "time" together.
Survey says:::::: Wife Needs To Just Shut Up And Get Over It. ps---he actually didn't drink all weekend. I think it's why he's crabby!
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