Dear Julia,
There is something very important that you need to know about when you grow up. And I need you to listen to me carefully, because no one tells the truth about this thing. NO ONE. If anyone comes close to telling you the truth about it, they gloss it over fairly well.
I'm talking about finding your Prince Charming. We grow up with these fairy tales around us, and that is all they are. Stories. They are made up stories. We watch shows on TV, and 90% of them don't show what life with Prince Charming (or what his life with his Princess, for that matter), is really like.
We all dream of finding THE PERSON (and you'll learn super fast that there is way more than ONE person out there that can make you happy) and getting married and living happily ever after. Then we make these silly vows before we even have a clue what we are saying. So please, please listen carefully.
DON'T DO IT! RUN! hahahhaha, I'm just kidding.
Married life is hard. I can't remember what it was like before kids, but I'm fairly sure that I was the same as I was when I got married, proclaiming to everyone around me that marriage was the best thing in the universe, and I could NOT understand why everyone around me rolled their eyes and shook their heads. And truly, it was most everyone who thought I was insane.
I know why now.
When you are married, and before you have children, if you are he are truly friends, you will likely not have too hard of a time stumbling through the fights that will come. Oh, sure, you'll be so spittin mad at him sometimes, you will wonder why you thought this was a good idea. He might feel that way too even. But since the world still revolves around the two of you, it's much easier than after you have kids. This you will not know until you have kids, so you will think that I do not know of what I say.
Then the babies come...and darling....you will be forever changed. SHOULD you choose to go down this route, that is. You do not have to. Heck, I'll be the first to tell you not to marry, too. Our divorce rates are SCREAMING to us that SOMETHING is not right about the way we're doing this. I'm trying HARD to find out what it is. Anyways, when the babies come you will be changed forever. Not that the man isn't, but I am not a man. However, I have been up for countless nights, changing diapers, feeding babies, comforting children, while he sleeps peacefully because he has to "go" to work in the morning.
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