Hey, You, Get Offa My Cloud!

Here is something that I work hard at, because I have to. We all do. Especially when we're dating or married to someone: Not Being Affected By Their Bad Mood/Meltdown.

This is very, very hard to do sometimes. Cullen has a hard time maintaining his joy when I'm melting down or venting, as do I when he is.
Is it preventable?

One thing that girls don't like (I hate generalizing, but it's pretty true) is to have our man "fix" whatever it is we are venting/feeling sad about. We just want to be heard. Girlfriends come in real handy for this, of course, but it's a good emotional connection to share some of this with the person in our life. We get to share our perspective, maybe learn a new one, etc.

Of course, if we aren't careful, we can drag em down with us. Maybe it's all about how we present whatever it is we are unhappy about. Surely there are ways to do it without making *them* feel attacked or in any way defensive, right? Maybe like JLL said, if we say whatever IT is the way that we WANT THEM TO HEAR IT, that helps?

But what about when we're getting dumped on? What if they are feeling overwhelmed by everything going on, are way short on sleep, and to top it all off, feel sad and alone and disconnected from you? How do you not let THAT affect you? Without trying to "fix" anything?

He's SO short on sleep. I KNEW today was going to suck like this for him. Every melt down he's had has come on a Friday, at the end of a nightmarish week work hour wise, and today it's double bad because he is working a total of 20 hours with 2 hours of sleep, and those 2 hours weren't even good because it was storming out and I was wide awake and cowering in bed. So I knew today was probably going to be hard. And it is. He's trying so hard. He's overwhelmed about our 2 broken vehicles, about MN State taking money out of his check that we owed and was a surprise to him...and me, of course, wondering if I'm happy and I really REALLY want to be with HIM.
I'm currently text flirting with him. He SOUNDS better in the texts...but i digress.

it's hard to put up a wall and let them do their thing and not feel affected. I know that I CAN'T *do* anything to help him, esp when he's soooo short on sleep right now. But I just want him to feel okay, to know he's not alone, to know that we, as a couple, are surrounded by support and love, and that we aren't in this alone. And yes, I already told him all that. Then I told him I love his butt- which is seriously the most perfect thing you've ever seen in your life.

Giddyup!