If I were going to do our wedding over again, knowing what I know now, what would I do different?
What would I do...what would I do....
Hm.
Okay, I think I got it.
First of all, I'd spare my sister and Cullen's brother from having to participate. Michelle, I'm sorry I made you buy a dress you would never wear again. That's so SUCK ASS. I hate doing it, and I'm sorry I made you do it too. I would also skip over buying a wedding dress. It's a one time deal, and for all that money? Screw that. I would, however, find the prettiest, flowiest, yummiest whatever I wanted (skirt, dress, whatevs) and buy that. Cullen would wear whatever he wanted to, too. And I think that probably in late spring- before bugs, but when it's heavenly out and you have your windows open all the time, we'd go underneath a willow tree somewhere pretty, and we'd get married. We'd read our own vows to eachother. We know NOW that marriage is HARD SHIT TO GET THROUGH, and NO ONE can prepare you for how hard it will be sometimes, like trying to get pregnant, deciding when to be done, raising the babies, letting babies cry, disciplining, money, parents...no one can tell you. DRINKING. The list goes on and on. HARD SHIT. We would write our own vows, and do you know what? There isn't a priest there. Or a judge. Because we don't need one. Legally, I supose you do, but when it comes to soul to soul, there is nothing a priest can do that we don't do, AND it's more honest coming from us anyway. If we wanted "witnesses" I supose we could include them- you know how us parents kinda like to see that kind of thing.
After we recommit to one another, we'd have a light lunch with those who came to be with us, and then it's nap time in the hammock.
Yup, that's what I'd do now.
Not that I didn't love how our wedding was the first time, but there were so many things that I did just because that's what "we" *do* and that's STUPID to me and I don't know why we do that.
Okay, the end.
What was your actual wedding like? And what were your favorite moments from your real wedding?
ReplyDeleteIt's also easier to say in hind sight because you HAD that real wedding. So you don't have to wonder if you would regret not having it or feel like you missed out on something.
That's SO true!!! SO TRUE! Um...I loved the anticipation of The Walk Down The Aisle...the buildup was VERY fun. And I loved that *I* was one of the stars of the day. I'm a Leo, I can't help it. :) It was a small wedding because Cullen HATES attention, then we invited everyone to the reception. We didn't have a professional photographer- and I don't know I would have found one that I liked. I hate posed, fake looking pics- but my brother in law had THE BEST one EVER...but I'm not sure she was working 14 years ago. Catholic wedding (!!!!!) done by a family priest who actually knew us, which was fun, but at the time I thought it was stupid that we had to "promise" things like raising our kids Catholic (over my dead body!!!) and stuff- again, just something we "had" to get through (SILLY!), but it WAS nice that Fr Marty knew us and the family, and it WAS fun to hear him announce us officially married- but I know now that no one needs to tell me when I'm married. BUT to your point, when you haven't had something, you do want it. I've got a whole other theory on YOU though. :) Remind me to tell you sometime. :) :)
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